What would you do if your boyfriend is too lazy to do something for valentine's?

Even when he knows it's important to me. I dont expect gifts, because i know he's too lazy to search for one. My birthday gift came 2 weeks late, and no xmas gifts. For valentine's, everytime we talked about gift/flowers, etc, he always say that there arent no good flowers around and the good one costs too much. He even suggest to have valentine's dinner on thursday cos the restaurants will be less crowded.

What would you do if your boyfriend is too lazy to do something for valentine's?
If you've already expressed how it is important to you, then he doesn't care about you or love you if he isn't going to make an effort to do it. However, if he felt strongly about it because he feels it is a dumb commercialised holiday and that everyday should be a celebration of your love, or some good reason, then you should respect how he feels and oblige. Its a compromise, as with all relationships- but his track record shows that he is just not a very caring guy, kind of selfish it seems. If this is not something you can deal with in a boyfriend, you two will only fight about it every holiday/occasion until you eventually break up.


2 wks late Birthday gift? Its not like it snuck up on him, christ sake its the same day every year. No XMas? Did he have a good reason? And a "good" flower? Did you explain to him that any show of affection would be appreciated by you? And what the hell does he know about horticulture that he can judge a "good flower"? There are plenty of perfectly good flowers everywhere, step into the nearest grocery store and you can pick up a bouquet. I have to say he has a point about the resturants being crowded, and its a Wednesday... alot of people move celebrations (birthdays/anniversaries/valentines/etc.... to the nearest weekend so they can stay out later and do the day bigger.... so thats not really something to trip on.


What do you do was the question... well, you smile and forget about it, you get upset and fight about it, or you leave him and get someone who will not be too lazy to do something special for you one day out of the freaking year. Hell, XMas, Anniversary, Valentines Day, Birthday. 4 occasions I can think of, and he can't handle them? He's not WORTH your time.
Reply:I was married to a man like that. After years, I ended up feeling like I wasn't worth any effort. Don't do that to yourself. If a man really loves you, he would do something romantic, even if he has no money... you would be able to tell by the effort he made. Don't listen to the lame excuses. Treat him as he treats you - neglect him - and ease yourself out....
Reply:deal or DUMP pick the one that makes you feel the best my hubbie wasn't in to holidays but he got the point they were important to me and sincerely says happy birthday or what every the occasion and even a gift or 2 thought the year now. he doesn't have to but i guess he seen it got me down sometimes. its the taught that count. i wouldn't give your boy friend a thought if he doesn't care about you feelings.
Reply:HAHAHA.. same here!! doh!!.. you share the same experience as mine!! my bday gift came 1 month late, no xmas gift and no anniversary gift!! our anniversary is on new year (1st jan) how sad???


YEAH, he suggest to have valentine's dinner on Friday! yeah.. the same reason, less crowded! HUAHAHa..


the difference is only he wouldn't mind buying flowers.


he didnt know that.. that's the day that we have to celebrate the lovely day.. its more happening, its more .. i dont know.. all i know is just important for us on that day... right?


he didnt really know the romantic restaurant or the place to go fine dining.. so he asked me to search and find it for us.


im the one who's working so hard to find and book the restaurant.


i guess our bf is just not sensitive.. dont know how to please us..


my friend said that if u still love him, just do it for you guys.. for the sake of love.. (hahha)


but dont let yourself do everything, sometimes you have to warn him, and make him realize that sometimes he needs to do that too.





PS: o yah, about the flowers, tell him that u dont need an expensive flowers, just buy u the no good flowers then, and you already happy with it. at least he tries.. and u appreciate of what he's done for u..


then he doesnt have any excuse right?
Reply:you poor honey..find yourself a guy who cares for your feelings..not to mention being excited about the occasion himself!!my boyfriend was so eager to do something to make me happy that he couldn't even wait till tomorrow(feb.14th)to give me roses!:D..trust me, there are more guys out there like that..
Reply:tell him how you feel and if that don't work then i guess you can buy him a treadmill and tell him to keep walking on it while you walk out of his life
Reply:r u serious? tell him how u feel and what u think he should do.
Reply:Personaly, I'd dump him. Who would like to live the rest of their lives like that?
Reply:man you women are trippin valentines day isnt a real holiday, neither is your dam birthday........................
Reply:I hate to say it but I don't think you man cares about what you want or what you think. He could show some kind of effort, ESPECIALLY on Valentines Day! Your birthday gift 2 weeks late and nothing for Christmas? Find some one to treat you nice.
Reply:Wow! I thought my ex was a jerk! We were "good" friends for a little over a year. We knew we liked each other, but he wouldn't/couldn't commit to a relationship until last October. I thought everything was going great until after two months we got in our first fight. I don't express myself very well when my feelings are hurt, so I got mad. He didn't appreciate it and decided that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be with me because it was such a turn off for me to get mad over something (he considered) so small.


As I look back now he never really was in our relationship. It was always what he wanted, he never considered my feelings. He didn't show up to my birthday until 5 hours after it started (with his friends at his side), he wasn't sure if he wanted to get me a Christmas gift or not... It sounds like my ex has a lot in common with your boyfriend. If he can't make the time to do the little things - he's not worth it!!! I fell for the guy that I thought my ex was because he "acted" like he was someone else when I was there. I hope you don't get hurt like I did.
Reply:I wouldn't call it lazy but he is definitely taking you for granted. It's impossible to love with out giving that means giving your best for the one you love regardless of how broke or busy you are so, girl you should be thinking twice before its too late for you to be feeling worthless for the rest of your life. Either you take the fact blindly or leave it, so he woudl realise that you are worth giving for. Let him treat you the way you want him to and its all up to you by telling it, if he keeps on with his ways then he really is not in to you...