What to do with a guy who doesn't really see the need in giving flowers or cards etc?

I am dating a very sweet, respectful guy. We just celeberated our one month anniversary. B/c it's only been one month, I decided to make him a small, home made (personalized) card, as a nice gesture for the occassion. He did not give me a card or anything but did take me out and pay for a nice dinner. I do not mind NOT getting anything from him--as he did pay for dinner and it's only been one month. However, some of my friends are telling me that he should have given me something (i.e. a card or gift or flowers etc). I would think that for more important milestones, my guy would actually do something, therefore I do not feel the need to make a scene over a month anniversary. Any thoughts on this scenario? Are my friends being overly critical or should I say something to my guy?

What to do with a guy who doesn't really see the need in giving flowers or cards etc?
I'd say your friends all sound like border-line personalities and I would listen very carefully to all there expectations, ridicule, and controlling that way your new boyfriend will dump you and you'll be back in the market looking for someone new in no time at all and then all your so-called friends will disappear!!!
Reply:if you want him to celebrate things like this you really need to tell him ahead of time in a nice, nonthreatening way. please don't make him read your mind to find out things that are important to you
Reply:Don't say anything to him...just continue to make him cards and do sweet little things like that for him. It's still early on, and he may have cute stuff planned for later on in your relationship!


What would your friends have you tell him anyway, "hey, you need to buy me a card?" You cant demand thoughtfulness. I have learned this. You can set an example through your actions and hopefully he will follow your example.


I think your friends in this case are being overly critical, which makes sense because they love you!