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What is a good, cheap drop shipping company that ships women's gifts and works with email or xml ?
Search on internet.I'm sure you find it
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Friday, May 21, 2010
Is it ok to give flowers as a gift on a first date? if so what sort of flowers are suitable?
the intended recipient is a female aged 46
Is it ok to give flowers as a gift on a first date? if so what sort of flowers are suitable?
If she is ur friend turn to be lover, give her 3 red roses. meaning I LOVE U. If u want her to be marry, GIVE HER WHITE ROSES, means purity of ur intention to her. If u think u just like her, give her mixed seasonals flowers, meaning U like her..Good luck!
Reply:give her a white rose so she'll know ur intentions r pure %26amp; clean
Reply:roses...
Reply:definately ok...I like all flowers...roses and carnations especially...but t hen again I am only 26 not 46
Reply:Flowers are always a welcome choice. unusual flowers are a good choice
Reply:Of course! Remember though, a mature woman will probably know the meaning of different colored roses. Go with a spring bouquet, first time around.
Reply:of course
A single red rose is always romantic
Reply:Women love flowers always, but don't give a rose on the first date. Especially a red rose, there is a lot more to a red rose than most men might think...Especially to a lady 46, she will understand the meaning of a red rose, which is more serious than just a first date. Small bouquet of carnations would be fine...
Reply:depends on her taste lor, if she thinks she is still young, a boupquet of roses or any other flower she like. If she is the rich or loves to show off, a necklace or ring can do the job.
(everything said above depends on your financial abilities)
Reply:Carnations, they are very pretty and remind me of maturity, or three yellow roses ,for friendship, with babies breath.
Reply:I would think so. It would be a thoughtful gesture if you could find out what her favorite flowers were, but if you think that idea is a little too "serious" for a first date, then ditch it.
Otherwise, give her vibrant-colored flowers. You might want to stay away from red roses though... those speak volumes and are super romantic.
It depends on how serious you feel about the woman.
Reply:I think it is a great gift. I think maybe Daisys or roses are nice...but to me roses suggest you are in complete love with her. A teddy bear is nice too...but thats just me :)
Is it ok to give flowers as a gift on a first date? if so what sort of flowers are suitable?
If she is ur friend turn to be lover, give her 3 red roses. meaning I LOVE U. If u want her to be marry, GIVE HER WHITE ROSES, means purity of ur intention to her. If u think u just like her, give her mixed seasonals flowers, meaning U like her..Good luck!
Reply:give her a white rose so she'll know ur intentions r pure %26amp; clean
Reply:roses...
Reply:definately ok...I like all flowers...roses and carnations especially...but t hen again I am only 26 not 46
Reply:Flowers are always a welcome choice. unusual flowers are a good choice
Reply:Of course! Remember though, a mature woman will probably know the meaning of different colored roses. Go with a spring bouquet, first time around.
Reply:of course
A single red rose is always romantic
Reply:Women love flowers always, but don't give a rose on the first date. Especially a red rose, there is a lot more to a red rose than most men might think...Especially to a lady 46, she will understand the meaning of a red rose, which is more serious than just a first date. Small bouquet of carnations would be fine...
Reply:depends on her taste lor, if she thinks she is still young, a boupquet of roses or any other flower she like. If she is the rich or loves to show off, a necklace or ring can do the job.
(everything said above depends on your financial abilities)
Reply:Carnations, they are very pretty and remind me of maturity, or three yellow roses ,for friendship, with babies breath.
Reply:I would think so. It would be a thoughtful gesture if you could find out what her favorite flowers were, but if you think that idea is a little too "serious" for a first date, then ditch it.
Otherwise, give her vibrant-colored flowers. You might want to stay away from red roses though... those speak volumes and are super romantic.
It depends on how serious you feel about the woman.
Reply:I think it is a great gift. I think maybe Daisys or roses are nice...but to me roses suggest you are in complete love with her. A teddy bear is nice too...but thats just me :)
Do orchids re-flower? I got one as a gift and it has lasted since the start of Feb but now it is down to the?
last flowers - should I just bin it?
Do orchids re-flower? I got one as a gift and it has lasted since the start of Feb but now it is down to the?
Almost of my orchids re-flower.They do need a rest.Leave them somewhere cool,like a bathroom and just give them a quick shower every week or so if they get a bit dusty.After a few months(6-12) you will notice new shoots,then give them a lukewarm shower,about 30 degrees C should be right,a drop of orchid food in their water every week should be OK.
Big naff tip!! if you can't wait for the few months stick an artificial one in the pot with them to shame them into flowering!!!!!!
Reply:NO! Don't toss it out! They are tropical plants and like humidity. put it in your bathroom for a week or two and then set it in indirect sun for a few days then repeat. If it gets too dry spray it with a squirt bottle. And you can water it, just water from the bottom and let the roots soak it up into the plant. It should grow another shoot in a few months but I have some that only flower once a year.You can also get Orchid furtalizer that will help keep it healthy. One more thing, whatch out for mold if it stays too wet for too long it can kill the plant.
Reply:i have 3 all in flower i bought them as sticks from garden center.so i received them.ihave clear orchid pots i cut the stems 2 the second bud water only with rainwater and feed them in about 12 weeks you will notice new growth from the bud get a orchid stick to secure it and a pretty butterfly clip you can buy.
Reply:depends on where you live ,but in a temperate climate without frost they are fin left outside in winter and will flower again in early spring ,they prefer to be pot bound so don't worry really until they start to breakthrough the post ,also no water or fertiliser in the winter while they are dormant.
Reply:Dont bin it they go on forever, it should be in a clear pot and have alot of root, thats how they like it, pot bound. Water once a week by sitting in room temp water for 10 mins, no more. They thrive on neglect. They like a bright hot room. Mist occasionally.
Google orchid care.
Reply:No, it will flower again. It is a plant, it is alive, it will keep living and flowering if you care for it. Talk to someone at a nursery because you can get fertiliser to help promote flowering.
Reply:I can't imagine where some people get their answers from. :)
Yes - your orchid will bloom again - with proper care. You first need to know what kind you have. Culture varies.
See source for more info.
Reply:It will flower again but don't over water it or the roots will rot.
Do orchids re-flower? I got one as a gift and it has lasted since the start of Feb but now it is down to the?
Almost of my orchids re-flower.They do need a rest.Leave them somewhere cool,like a bathroom and just give them a quick shower every week or so if they get a bit dusty.After a few months(6-12) you will notice new shoots,then give them a lukewarm shower,about 30 degrees C should be right,a drop of orchid food in their water every week should be OK.
Big naff tip!! if you can't wait for the few months stick an artificial one in the pot with them to shame them into flowering!!!!!!
Reply:NO! Don't toss it out! They are tropical plants and like humidity. put it in your bathroom for a week or two and then set it in indirect sun for a few days then repeat. If it gets too dry spray it with a squirt bottle. And you can water it, just water from the bottom and let the roots soak it up into the plant. It should grow another shoot in a few months but I have some that only flower once a year.You can also get Orchid furtalizer that will help keep it healthy. One more thing, whatch out for mold if it stays too wet for too long it can kill the plant.
Reply:i have 3 all in flower i bought them as sticks from garden center.so i received them.ihave clear orchid pots i cut the stems 2 the second bud water only with rainwater and feed them in about 12 weeks you will notice new growth from the bud get a orchid stick to secure it and a pretty butterfly clip you can buy.
Reply:depends on where you live ,but in a temperate climate without frost they are fin left outside in winter and will flower again in early spring ,they prefer to be pot bound so don't worry really until they start to breakthrough the post ,also no water or fertiliser in the winter while they are dormant.
Reply:Dont bin it they go on forever, it should be in a clear pot and have alot of root, thats how they like it, pot bound. Water once a week by sitting in room temp water for 10 mins, no more. They thrive on neglect. They like a bright hot room. Mist occasionally.
Google orchid care.
Reply:No, it will flower again. It is a plant, it is alive, it will keep living and flowering if you care for it. Talk to someone at a nursery because you can get fertiliser to help promote flowering.
Reply:I can't imagine where some people get their answers from. :)
Yes - your orchid will bloom again - with proper care. You first need to know what kind you have. Culture varies.
See source for more info.
Reply:It will flower again but don't over water it or the roots will rot.
If you send mother flowers on mother's day, what do you send your dad?
My dad lives about two hours away. And I won't be able to give him a Father's day gift in person. I sent my mom flowers, but my dad isn't a "flower" person, obviously.
So, besides a card, what can I send my dad in the mail?
BTW, I am twenty.... so my dad and I can't do the whole coffee mug, or tie thing. We are close, but I don't have a lot of money right now (college student).
In other words, what is the male equivalent of flowers?
If you send mother flowers on mother's day, what do you send your dad?
A box of tools, lol
Maybe a framed pic of you and your dad, that wont cost a lot
Reply:There are some places that let you send either food or gift certificates. Omaha Steak Company is one. Send him something that he can eat. Dads never say no to food! Or send him tickets to his favorite sporting event. Lots of things you can do for Dad!
If you're really poor this year, you can write him a letter. Make it like a chronological thing, recalling the first memory you have of him. Go through the years, pulling out something special you remember him doing for you. Dads love to be appreciated. That might be the best gift of all, just to let him know you know what he did for you all these years.
Reply:~ how about a gift card to his favorite grocery store,,,,even $25.00 is a good amount,,,and on the card tell your dad to get himself a treat ! Tell him to buy some fun food that he normally wouldn't buy for himself,,,,for example I know my dad likes sardines,,,and cashews, ice cream and stuff like that,,,,,but he never buys the "brand" names,,,this way he can splurge !
Reply:Send him the bill for the flowers.
Couldn't pass that up : )
Most Dads are probably not so into the "Gift for Father's Day" thing.
Stay in touch throughout the year,
ask him for his opinion on things,
and just "be a good son or daughter"
and you'll outdo any gift that either gets
tossed right away or stuck in the closet.
If he has a hobby that requires supplies,
you could go for something like that:
Plays golf ? Golf balls (or other sports equipment)
Artistic ? Art supplies
A nice book on a subject he's interested in.
You could write him a poem.
Coming from you ANYTHING is ok,
even something totally cheesy like
Roses are red, Violets are blue, You're a great Dad, and I Love You.
Well, maybe not THAT cheesy, but you can
write something a lot better I'm sure :)
That's better than buying a card that SOMEONE ELSE wrote.
Reply:For fathers it depends on what he enjoys doing, like for me, I wouldn't want a tie. a 6pack of beer and a pack of newports would do me good. for my stepfather he loves fixing up little tyco and r/c cars. so getting him that would be his enjoyment. Ties and tshirts don't really fit in a males lifestyle, unless he's in big business and thats the clothes he like. So just give him an addition to something he already enjoys doing. like if he likes fishing. get him some different lures or a gift card to a hunting and gaming store.
Reply:Perhaps a photo CD, maybe even a compilation tape or CD of favorite music (if he likes music) or bake him some cookies
Reply:There are places that you can order trees through the mail (they arrive in a manila envelope). Some are as cheap as $10 @ dozen. I bought Royal Paulownias that that arrived in a 8x12 envelope and in 2 years (Honestly - no exaggeration ) were 6 feet tall.
Reply:Box of choc. or cookie gram.
Sports paraphernalia.
House plant.
Fruit basket or fruit of the month.
So, besides a card, what can I send my dad in the mail?
BTW, I am twenty.... so my dad and I can't do the whole coffee mug, or tie thing. We are close, but I don't have a lot of money right now (college student).
In other words, what is the male equivalent of flowers?
If you send mother flowers on mother's day, what do you send your dad?
A box of tools, lol
Maybe a framed pic of you and your dad, that wont cost a lot
Reply:There are some places that let you send either food or gift certificates. Omaha Steak Company is one. Send him something that he can eat. Dads never say no to food! Or send him tickets to his favorite sporting event. Lots of things you can do for Dad!
If you're really poor this year, you can write him a letter. Make it like a chronological thing, recalling the first memory you have of him. Go through the years, pulling out something special you remember him doing for you. Dads love to be appreciated. That might be the best gift of all, just to let him know you know what he did for you all these years.
Reply:~ how about a gift card to his favorite grocery store,,,,even $25.00 is a good amount,,,and on the card tell your dad to get himself a treat ! Tell him to buy some fun food that he normally wouldn't buy for himself,,,,for example I know my dad likes sardines,,,and cashews, ice cream and stuff like that,,,,,but he never buys the "brand" names,,,this way he can splurge !
Reply:Send him the bill for the flowers.
Couldn't pass that up : )
Most Dads are probably not so into the "Gift for Father's Day" thing.
Stay in touch throughout the year,
ask him for his opinion on things,
and just "be a good son or daughter"
and you'll outdo any gift that either gets
tossed right away or stuck in the closet.
If he has a hobby that requires supplies,
you could go for something like that:
Plays golf ? Golf balls (or other sports equipment)
Artistic ? Art supplies
A nice book on a subject he's interested in.
You could write him a poem.
Coming from you ANYTHING is ok,
even something totally cheesy like
Roses are red, Violets are blue, You're a great Dad, and I Love You.
Well, maybe not THAT cheesy, but you can
write something a lot better I'm sure :)
That's better than buying a card that SOMEONE ELSE wrote.
Reply:For fathers it depends on what he enjoys doing, like for me, I wouldn't want a tie. a 6pack of beer and a pack of newports would do me good. for my stepfather he loves fixing up little tyco and r/c cars. so getting him that would be his enjoyment. Ties and tshirts don't really fit in a males lifestyle, unless he's in big business and thats the clothes he like. So just give him an addition to something he already enjoys doing. like if he likes fishing. get him some different lures or a gift card to a hunting and gaming store.
Reply:Perhaps a photo CD, maybe even a compilation tape or CD of favorite music (if he likes music) or bake him some cookies
Reply:There are places that you can order trees through the mail (they arrive in a manila envelope). Some are as cheap as $10 @ dozen. I bought Royal Paulownias that that arrived in a 8x12 envelope and in 2 years (Honestly - no exaggeration ) were 6 feet tall.
Reply:Box of choc. or cookie gram.
Sports paraphernalia.
House plant.
Fruit basket or fruit of the month.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
Ladies, Which do you prefer to receive as a gift, candy or flowers?
Neither,
They are sort of cliche. I would prefer something that shows that the person is thinking about ME and what I would like rather than trying to impress me.
Now the gift depends on the girl. Here are some examples:
A certificate for a free massage
A book from her favourite author
A homemade dinner
A cup of tea without being asked for it
A surprise date
Ladies, Which do you prefer to receive as a gift, candy or flowers?
I love flowers!!! They're pretty, romantic and symbolic. Candy I can get already for no reason.
Reply:oh man thats hard, chocolate is so good but then we get fat pretty easy so flowers are the best way to go.
Reply:What planet are you from? Cash!
Reply:What are candies, are they sweets or chocolate?
If they are sweets then it depends what sweets they are, if its chocolate then i would prefer chocolates to flowers.
Reply:flowers....recieveing candy makes me feel like a pig...however flowers die rapidly and anyone over analytical would say that thats a sign of the relationship dieing quickly......i actually prefere neaither...however in your case I would have to say flowers...
Reply:Candy...Flowers just sit there and die.
Reply:your time helping me out around here
Reply:flowers even though they die fast i will dry them and keep them
but both is wonderful
Reply:I wouldn't really want either. I would want something that you put a lot of thought into or something that you invest time and money in and can't take back (like going out to a nice restaurant). But if I had to choose, I would pick flowers.
Reply:Flowers
Reply:Either way, they'll both be gone in a few days or a week, but flowers are more romantic and "grown up".
Reply:flowers always disappoint me because they always die in less then 2 weeks. i have hope they will come back, but its useless and a bit depressing. Just give me candy, its a sweet gesture, just not to much. to be honest i prefer small jewelry. because they mean something to me, i hold them dear because of the person that gave it to me. like a little heart necklace or bracelet. if you're that special, i'll never take it off.
Reply:oowe...i prefer gifts...but candy %26amp; flowers will do...
Reply:IM not a lady or even plannin on being one but dude a lady rather see some colorfull flowers than candy !!!
remember most of em are gonna be on a diet...
Reply:Flowers. I love when I get flowers send to my office. I don't need the extra calories, so that's why candy is out.
Reply:Both are a bit overused and cliche'. Something original would be more appreciated, or a sweet card or gesture. Candy and flowers are nice, but way overdone...the candy goes straight to my tochis and the flowers wilt in a few days.
Reply:flowers
Reply:i'm not a lady but believe me when i tell u they like flowers and they like chocolate but both at the same time they will love
Reply:flowers
Reply:Neither!
Gayle
Reply:GIFTS ARE NICE IF THEY ARE ROMANTIC BUT FLOWERS ARE ALWAYS ROMANTIC.
Reply:candy duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:both!!
Reply:What, not both? Okay, well, I'll take the flowers.
Reply:jewelry. Candy makes ya fat and flowers die........they're both pretty depressing
Reply:i like 2 get flowers why it the prefect give 2 give ur woman
They are sort of cliche. I would prefer something that shows that the person is thinking about ME and what I would like rather than trying to impress me.
Now the gift depends on the girl. Here are some examples:
A certificate for a free massage
A book from her favourite author
A homemade dinner
A cup of tea without being asked for it
A surprise date
Ladies, Which do you prefer to receive as a gift, candy or flowers?
I love flowers!!! They're pretty, romantic and symbolic. Candy I can get already for no reason.
Reply:oh man thats hard, chocolate is so good but then we get fat pretty easy so flowers are the best way to go.
Reply:What planet are you from? Cash!
Reply:What are candies, are they sweets or chocolate?
If they are sweets then it depends what sweets they are, if its chocolate then i would prefer chocolates to flowers.
Reply:flowers....recieveing candy makes me feel like a pig...however flowers die rapidly and anyone over analytical would say that thats a sign of the relationship dieing quickly......i actually prefere neaither...however in your case I would have to say flowers...
Reply:Candy...Flowers just sit there and die.
Reply:your time helping me out around here
Reply:flowers even though they die fast i will dry them and keep them
but both is wonderful
Reply:I wouldn't really want either. I would want something that you put a lot of thought into or something that you invest time and money in and can't take back (like going out to a nice restaurant). But if I had to choose, I would pick flowers.
Reply:Flowers
Reply:Either way, they'll both be gone in a few days or a week, but flowers are more romantic and "grown up".
Reply:flowers always disappoint me because they always die in less then 2 weeks. i have hope they will come back, but its useless and a bit depressing. Just give me candy, its a sweet gesture, just not to much. to be honest i prefer small jewelry. because they mean something to me, i hold them dear because of the person that gave it to me. like a little heart necklace or bracelet. if you're that special, i'll never take it off.
Reply:oowe...i prefer gifts...but candy %26amp; flowers will do...
Reply:IM not a lady or even plannin on being one but dude a lady rather see some colorfull flowers than candy !!!
remember most of em are gonna be on a diet...
Reply:Flowers. I love when I get flowers send to my office. I don't need the extra calories, so that's why candy is out.
Reply:Both are a bit overused and cliche'. Something original would be more appreciated, or a sweet card or gesture. Candy and flowers are nice, but way overdone...the candy goes straight to my tochis and the flowers wilt in a few days.
Reply:flowers
Reply:i'm not a lady but believe me when i tell u they like flowers and they like chocolate but both at the same time they will love
Reply:flowers
Reply:Neither!
Gayle
Reply:GIFTS ARE NICE IF THEY ARE ROMANTIC BUT FLOWERS ARE ALWAYS ROMANTIC.
Reply:candy duh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:both!!
Reply:What, not both? Okay, well, I'll take the flowers.
Reply:jewelry. Candy makes ya fat and flowers die........they're both pretty depressing
Reply:i like 2 get flowers why it the prefect give 2 give ur woman
R there any othr women out there who would rathr get almost ANY othr inexpensive gift INSTEAD OF cut flowers?
Cut flowers are pretty, but they only last so long.
If a gentleman wants to get me flowers, I prefer a potted plant, such as an orchid. Every time they bloom, you can think fondly of the person who gave it to you.
R there any othr women out there who would rathr get almost ANY othr inexpensive gift INSTEAD OF cut flowers?
As a guy I just have to say what Ablex wrote made me think – “Ouch.”
However, I do totally agree. They are all well worth a “Thumbs Up”.
Inexpensive cut flowers should be relegated to the role of a table decoration for dinner.
They are ornamental. As with the food and candles, once the evening is over they are meant to soon be discarded.
My preference is to give live plants. I especially like to give orchids. They come in such a variety of shapes, sizes and colors, just like people and my feelings for them. The message they have for me in a relation ship is that you are special and unique. The orchid doesn’t need a lot of attention, just a little care. Mainly water and food once in a while, and they will continue to bring joy in your life for quite a while to come. That would be the message I try to express.
(Yeah, I know you asked for women. But I felt like I should answer to let you all know that there are guys out there that also agree)
Reply:I heard this guy gave his GF some fresh flowers and a note that said "I will love you until each petal falls off."
She found out that the last flower was fake.
I would love to have creative stuff like that instead of an expensive thing.
Reply:Absolutely.
I'd actually prefer a living plant (houseplant or outdoor) over cut flowers.
Who ever decided that the amputated reproductive organs of plants are the perfect expression of affection?
dream theater
If a gentleman wants to get me flowers, I prefer a potted plant, such as an orchid. Every time they bloom, you can think fondly of the person who gave it to you.
R there any othr women out there who would rathr get almost ANY othr inexpensive gift INSTEAD OF cut flowers?
As a guy I just have to say what Ablex wrote made me think – “Ouch.”
However, I do totally agree. They are all well worth a “Thumbs Up”.
Inexpensive cut flowers should be relegated to the role of a table decoration for dinner.
They are ornamental. As with the food and candles, once the evening is over they are meant to soon be discarded.
My preference is to give live plants. I especially like to give orchids. They come in such a variety of shapes, sizes and colors, just like people and my feelings for them. The message they have for me in a relation ship is that you are special and unique. The orchid doesn’t need a lot of attention, just a little care. Mainly water and food once in a while, and they will continue to bring joy in your life for quite a while to come. That would be the message I try to express.
(Yeah, I know you asked for women. But I felt like I should answer to let you all know that there are guys out there that also agree)
Reply:I heard this guy gave his GF some fresh flowers and a note that said "I will love you until each petal falls off."
She found out that the last flower was fake.
I would love to have creative stuff like that instead of an expensive thing.
Reply:Absolutely.
I'd actually prefer a living plant (houseplant or outdoor) over cut flowers.
Who ever decided that the amputated reproductive organs of plants are the perfect expression of affection?
dream theater
My husband spends a fortune on flowers for me?
My husband gives me flowers at least twive a week every week. They are usually roses, 2 dozen or more so they are pretty expensive. He also gives me gifts often just because. The fact that he is so considerate and caring makes me happy but at the same time I can't help thinking that he spends so much money on flowers that die in a couple of days.
We do not own a house and we've been trying to save up some money to buy a house and I knbow we have to buy furniture, things for the house, etc. Should I let my husband know that maybe I would like to get flowers less often, like once or twice a month? Don't get me wrong, I am very flattered and thankful, we've been married for 6 years and my husband is still so romantic and loves me so much, but we do not even own a house yet and we have so many expenses! What should I do? I do not want to offend him!
My husband spends a fortune on flowers for me?
Tell him that you love the flowers and appreciate them very much, but ask if instead of buying you flowers twice a week, can he put the money away in a fund for a romantic getaway with you. By doing that, you are not telling him that he is wasting money when you have goals and dreams, but you are telling him that you appreciate his romantic gesture and would like to further that gesture by planning and saving for a romantic getaway. Once the money begins to accumulate, your husband may see for himself how it has all been adding up and may come to realize, without you making him feel bad, that he has indeed been spending quite a bit of money for flowers and gifts. He may be encouraged by seeing how much money is saved for your romantic getaway that he may decide to try saving for that house or paying on some of those expenses you have.
You sound like you have a gem of a husband who clearly adores his wife and wants to make her happy. You also sound like someone who cares about him and wants to make him happy as well. It's a bit unusual to see such unselfishness in a marriage and also refreshing. If all else fails, I think if you just sit down and talk to him and tell him in a very loving way that you love and appreciate the flowers and gifts, but would like to cut down a bit so you both can reach your goals, he might surprise you and take it very well. It could be that he is so accustomed to spoiling you that he is afraid to curtail his spending, for fear of offending YOU or hurting your feelings in some way. Men are conditioned to not want to mess things up with their wives because we women can be hard to understand sometimes. Your husband might actually be relieved to know he doesn't HAVE to spend so much money on you all the time. You will not give him that opportunity to find this out however, unless you talk to him. I think that as long as you are considerate of his feelings when you talk to him and don't imply he is being foolish with money, things will turn out okay.
Reply:Tell him to grow a patch in the garden so he can cut them and bring them in to you.
Reply:You are very, very lucky. I deal with disgruntled spouses who cannot recall the last time they received flowers.
Be gracious to him. He is expressing his undying love for you. By denying him this opportunity to express himself will hurt him immensely.
I suggest that instead of flowers you tell him you would prefer sex. This will replace a loving act (buying flowers) with an even MORE loving act (sex). Plus, it won't cost you anything, he won't get his feeling hurt, and your marriage will be even more strengthened.
A win-win situation.
Good luck.
Reply:just tell him... that you find it so incredibly passionate and beautiful but instead of buying me flowers... why don't you take the money that you would have spent on them... and put it into a savings account for our house!
just make sure.. you tell him why... !!!!
Reply:I think you should tell him that you love his romantic side and the fact that he still loves to spoil you after so long, but what you raelly want is a house of your own that you can decorate with your own stuff. Suggest that he puts the money he spends on flowers in a savings acct that you can both watch grow. Tell him once you get a house he can plant flowers that will bloom all spring and summer and you would love that even more.
He sounds like a pleaser, so I am sure if you let him know that this is what you really really want, he will do it.
Reply:ungrateful wench. I never buy my wife flowers
Reply:Omg, are you kidding me?
Reply:Are you kidding? I would kill my husband if he was wasting money like this. I'm kind of surprised that you waited 6 years to bring this up; just tell him. You are offending him more by accepting something that you don't feel comfortable about. Pick the right moment (NOT right after he brings you flowers) and gently suggest that it would make you happier if the money he is spending on flowers went into savings instead. He may feel the same way about the money he's spending - but being that he believes it makes you happy, he doesn't mind. Talk to him and see if you are on the same page.
Reply:This sounds like an episode from the Twilight Zone. Flowers weekly from a man you've been married to for 6 years??? Good gracious, girl, what have you got that the rest of us don't have?? Please share your secret!
But, yeah, I see what you're saying and you do need to address the issue with him. He's your husband...he'll understand. Tell him you appreciate the sentiment but that he doesn't have to "prove" his love to you so often. Tell him you know he loves you and you love him and you just want to be sure that you are financially secure enough to have the life the two of you dream of one day.
Reply:Just tell him that you love him and love how much he adores you...but if he could but the money he spends on flowers in savings...
Reply:Talk to him in bed. .. be sure to cuddle a lot ... and make a ground first
talk to him about your needs like how a house will contribute to your long term needs like kids and all... then talk about saving money. then drop the bomb
Reply:tell him that the flowers are nice but that you need to save money for your future home
in the mean time...if he wants to show you how much he really loves you with gifts tell him to write notes and leave them for you or something else that wouldnt be as expensive
my husband leaves me a little note every morning before he goes to work
Reply:If your husband really is that considerate then he won't be offended by a heart-to-heart talk where you take his hand and look him in the eye and tell him how much you love him. Then explain that while you love the flowers and the gifts and how romantic he is and you do know how much he cares, it would please you more if he put some of the money he spends on those flowers and gifts in your house fund. It can be a little sticky when it comes to dealing with these kinds of feelings so make sure that after you talk about this you let him know in your own way over the next few days how much you care for him too. It's a two way street and he deserves the same consideration he is giving you with the attention. As long as you keep his feelings in mind his ego should come out intact and the two of you are closer to owning your home.
Reply:Do what I did oh so many years ago--tell him you hate to see such expensive flowers die in so short a period of time and that you would much rather he buy you rose bushes instead of fresh cut roses. Today I have a beautiful rose garden.
Reply:open up a new savings account with like ING or something with high interest.... tell him every time he thinks about buying flowers.. put the $50 in the savings account instead... that way, you'll save up money... and let him spend SOME of that money that accrues in the account on a romantic weekend away from the kids (or other stress or daily chores at home) or something like that.
We do not own a house and we've been trying to save up some money to buy a house and I knbow we have to buy furniture, things for the house, etc. Should I let my husband know that maybe I would like to get flowers less often, like once or twice a month? Don't get me wrong, I am very flattered and thankful, we've been married for 6 years and my husband is still so romantic and loves me so much, but we do not even own a house yet and we have so many expenses! What should I do? I do not want to offend him!
My husband spends a fortune on flowers for me?
Tell him that you love the flowers and appreciate them very much, but ask if instead of buying you flowers twice a week, can he put the money away in a fund for a romantic getaway with you. By doing that, you are not telling him that he is wasting money when you have goals and dreams, but you are telling him that you appreciate his romantic gesture and would like to further that gesture by planning and saving for a romantic getaway. Once the money begins to accumulate, your husband may see for himself how it has all been adding up and may come to realize, without you making him feel bad, that he has indeed been spending quite a bit of money for flowers and gifts. He may be encouraged by seeing how much money is saved for your romantic getaway that he may decide to try saving for that house or paying on some of those expenses you have.
You sound like you have a gem of a husband who clearly adores his wife and wants to make her happy. You also sound like someone who cares about him and wants to make him happy as well. It's a bit unusual to see such unselfishness in a marriage and also refreshing. If all else fails, I think if you just sit down and talk to him and tell him in a very loving way that you love and appreciate the flowers and gifts, but would like to cut down a bit so you both can reach your goals, he might surprise you and take it very well. It could be that he is so accustomed to spoiling you that he is afraid to curtail his spending, for fear of offending YOU or hurting your feelings in some way. Men are conditioned to not want to mess things up with their wives because we women can be hard to understand sometimes. Your husband might actually be relieved to know he doesn't HAVE to spend so much money on you all the time. You will not give him that opportunity to find this out however, unless you talk to him. I think that as long as you are considerate of his feelings when you talk to him and don't imply he is being foolish with money, things will turn out okay.
Reply:Tell him to grow a patch in the garden so he can cut them and bring them in to you.
Reply:You are very, very lucky. I deal with disgruntled spouses who cannot recall the last time they received flowers.
Be gracious to him. He is expressing his undying love for you. By denying him this opportunity to express himself will hurt him immensely.
I suggest that instead of flowers you tell him you would prefer sex. This will replace a loving act (buying flowers) with an even MORE loving act (sex). Plus, it won't cost you anything, he won't get his feeling hurt, and your marriage will be even more strengthened.
A win-win situation.
Good luck.
Reply:just tell him... that you find it so incredibly passionate and beautiful but instead of buying me flowers... why don't you take the money that you would have spent on them... and put it into a savings account for our house!
just make sure.. you tell him why... !!!!
Reply:I think you should tell him that you love his romantic side and the fact that he still loves to spoil you after so long, but what you raelly want is a house of your own that you can decorate with your own stuff. Suggest that he puts the money he spends on flowers in a savings acct that you can both watch grow. Tell him once you get a house he can plant flowers that will bloom all spring and summer and you would love that even more.
He sounds like a pleaser, so I am sure if you let him know that this is what you really really want, he will do it.
Reply:ungrateful wench. I never buy my wife flowers
Reply:Omg, are you kidding me?
Reply:Are you kidding? I would kill my husband if he was wasting money like this. I'm kind of surprised that you waited 6 years to bring this up; just tell him. You are offending him more by accepting something that you don't feel comfortable about. Pick the right moment (NOT right after he brings you flowers) and gently suggest that it would make you happier if the money he is spending on flowers went into savings instead. He may feel the same way about the money he's spending - but being that he believes it makes you happy, he doesn't mind. Talk to him and see if you are on the same page.
Reply:This sounds like an episode from the Twilight Zone. Flowers weekly from a man you've been married to for 6 years??? Good gracious, girl, what have you got that the rest of us don't have?? Please share your secret!
But, yeah, I see what you're saying and you do need to address the issue with him. He's your husband...he'll understand. Tell him you appreciate the sentiment but that he doesn't have to "prove" his love to you so often. Tell him you know he loves you and you love him and you just want to be sure that you are financially secure enough to have the life the two of you dream of one day.
Reply:Just tell him that you love him and love how much he adores you...but if he could but the money he spends on flowers in savings...
Reply:Talk to him in bed. .. be sure to cuddle a lot ... and make a ground first
talk to him about your needs like how a house will contribute to your long term needs like kids and all... then talk about saving money. then drop the bomb
Reply:tell him that the flowers are nice but that you need to save money for your future home
in the mean time...if he wants to show you how much he really loves you with gifts tell him to write notes and leave them for you or something else that wouldnt be as expensive
my husband leaves me a little note every morning before he goes to work
Reply:If your husband really is that considerate then he won't be offended by a heart-to-heart talk where you take his hand and look him in the eye and tell him how much you love him. Then explain that while you love the flowers and the gifts and how romantic he is and you do know how much he cares, it would please you more if he put some of the money he spends on those flowers and gifts in your house fund. It can be a little sticky when it comes to dealing with these kinds of feelings so make sure that after you talk about this you let him know in your own way over the next few days how much you care for him too. It's a two way street and he deserves the same consideration he is giving you with the attention. As long as you keep his feelings in mind his ego should come out intact and the two of you are closer to owning your home.
Reply:Do what I did oh so many years ago--tell him you hate to see such expensive flowers die in so short a period of time and that you would much rather he buy you rose bushes instead of fresh cut roses. Today I have a beautiful rose garden.
Reply:open up a new savings account with like ING or something with high interest.... tell him every time he thinks about buying flowers.. put the $50 in the savings account instead... that way, you'll save up money... and let him spend SOME of that money that accrues in the account on a romantic weekend away from the kids (or other stress or daily chores at home) or something like that.
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